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Exhaustion has been a theme around my house throughout the winter. I’m so tired that I don’t feel like doing anything… but I’m doing all the things anyway.  All of the things that make my family’s world go ‘round. It’s this constant balance – trying to get shit done without overdoing it.  Allowing myself time to rest without feeling like a lazy bum.

The other night my husband told me that in his dream work life, he’d keep the office job he has but only do it three days a week. Then for three other days out of the week, he would focus on his passion work: buying, restoring, and selling antique cars.

Without even thinking about it I told him, “In my dream work life, I’d have two years off.”  Haha.  But really.

I’m a believer in possibility and dreaming big. If I wanted to take two years off work, I could probably make it happen (albeit some big changes would need to be made!).   

I’ve been overachieving for my whole life, and I’ve just suffered a big loss with the death of my dad. Deep down, I really do think I could use two years off. But the fact is, even if I decided to actually make it happen, my “real” life isn’t going to stop right this second. The arrangements would take some time.

I got super frustrated by that as I went down the mental rabbit hole of how life might be if I could take extended time off… beautiful walks in the woods, leisurely time with my kids, yoga classes and more riding lessons… But I finally came around to the idea that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, black or white.  Maybe there are some things I can do right now in my life to help it feel more restful, like I have some space to just… be.  

Here’s what I’ve tried so far:

  • I took 45 minutes on a Monday morning to finish a novel I’ve been reading.  Then I promptly chose my next read, a mindless trashy romance (woot!).
  • I went for a stroll before I picked my kids up from school one day.  
  • I planned a week of meals ahead of time, so I’m not scrambling at the end of the day to decide what’s for dinner.
  • I decided to screw the laundry and brunch with friends on Sunday (sigh).

All simple things that have made a small difference in how I feel about my life.

Currently, I’m looking over my schedule, seeing where I might be able to consolidate. Instead of letting my work days drift out over a 10 hour span with little breaks in between my to-do’s, I can focus work into a shorter amount of time and take longer breaks. My guess is I’ll feel more like I have time “off” doing things this way (I’ll keep you posted!).

It’s all very fascinating, really, how we hold ourselves back by viewing the situations in our lives as black or white, by not opening to more possibilities.  Now I’m curious about you…

Where can you make small changes that feel closer to what you’ve been dreaming of?  (You’ve just never considered them before.) Where are you holding back from having what you really want, because you’re looking at your possibilities as “all or nothing”?

Like in buddhism, maybe there’s a middle way.

I’m obviously on this journey with you.  I get the struggles of being a mom, a wife, and a business owner all while taking on the daily ups and downs of life.  That’s why I named my newest coaching package Finding Freedom in a Messy World – because that’s what I’m always after.  Freedom.

If you’d like support in finding more of it in your own life, I’m here. I’d love to help. You can find out more here, or you can schedule a free Discovery Session. And if you’d let me know how you’re doing in the comments below, I’d love to hear. It literally makes my day to know what you’re up to. 🙂


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